“In a nutshell, to have low self-esteem is to live a life of misery,” - Rosenberg and Owen.
Oh, that critical Inner voice. That Evil Inner witch, can be so loud it can drown out anything positive betimes. It is possible to drown that out! We can do it by stop listening! Simply refuse to listen. We can do it by practicing compassion for self.
Sometimes we have to put on our warpaint and do battle with it. We worry about other people judging us, because we know judgment right at the heart of the matter. We judge ourselves. Once we give that inner critic allowance to go, it will. And it will gather up force until we are on our knees. Bottom line, that judge’s theme is “You Are Not enough!”
Be damned with it. We ARE enough. We are us! We are our unique beautiful disaster of a self, sometimes, but that is enough too.
I said, before, we are warriors and we do battle with so many other things, why do we not battle the EIW (Evil Inner Witch is what I call it)? When you start to hear the negative whispers in your head, (and sometimes only your heart hears it and it starts hurting) you simply STOP LISTENING! It is guilty of assassination of self. It can give you false impressions of self. It is always wrong about you. Yes, it is wrong. And, you do not need excuses for why it is wrong. It is just simply wrong. Tell it to STFU , if you must, but stop it before it starts to yell at you. You would not anyone else do that to you, would you?
Darn rights we struggle and yes, we sometimes fail. But that is never the ALL of it. We do not always struggle and we do not always fail. Raise your fist in the air and say, “I am not!” In fact, scream it from the top of a mountain (of laundry if you must). But shut it up. Defy it like a rebellious teenager you might have. We would not take shaming from anyone else. Well, would we? Have we? Of course, we have, but no more. We do not have time for that crap any more.
Sometimes helping to support others is actually a way to nurture and support our Self. Go out of your way to notice others who are hurting and it is visible. Go out of your way to watch people and see what things they might be going through. Because we might feel alone and isolated in our pos self does not mean that we cannot recognize it in others. The moment we turn to someone else, we are turning to our beautiful, deep, vulnerable self.
Be a listener, to not only yourself, and your self-talk, listen to others. Listen to their stories. Listen between the lines. Show concern. Then realize that your concern for others is the foundation for caring for self. Treat yourself as you would others.
You are worth so much. None of us was born to be nothing. We were a gift to the world from the Divine. Find that divinity within and be that; yes, we have had undivine things happen to us… but it makes us even more a gift to the world. I esteem you!
©Carol Desjarlais 11.6.21
This art journal page truly needed fixing. Adding a new background and a few marks can make a world of difference.
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