“You become what you digest into your spirit.
Whatever you think about, focus on, read about, talk about, you’re going to
attract more of into your life. Make sure they're all positive.” ― Germany Kent
Everything we
are, we are responsible for being. Everything
we will be, we are responsible for being.
If we do things to compromise our authentic Self, we are responsible for
that. Yes, things can happen in life,
but most evolves from choices. How we
react to things out of our control, evolves from choices we make. Being stuck in the past is a conscious choice
we make. We need to take responsibility
for all these things, acknowledge that the choices either were great choices or
not great choices, then get on with today so we can have a better tomorrow.
Our identity is
affected by our Self-esteem.
Self-acceptance is accepting those things that might be not positive
about ourselves and making an effort to change what we can. We all have shadow sides. We need to try and figure out how to not deny
them. Perfect people are awfully hard to
be around. We are more attracted to those
who have lived, loved, had mystery and magic in their lives, have struggled and
who are starting to win. But, perfect
people live on their own little cloud and are not those we should emulate
because we cannot identify with them without guilt, shame, hopelessness. Oh, there are many who say we cannot be
perfect unless we do emulate perfect people.
Give me a perfect person and I will tell you they ride on a very fine
edge of narcissism and denial and they will eventually crash and in that crash
is some of our own woundedness if we have pinned our own perfection-goal to
them (albeit, we knew we could not be so perfect...and they were not, and we
end up despising ourselves because we wanted them to be). To not accept and
acknowledge our shadows is to never give ourselves the opportunity to work on
them, to heal them.
If we listen to
the voices all around us, including media, we will believe we are 'less than'
and then we live 'less than'. Some of us
have weighed our past, in our present, with shadows of the negative past. Every time we have something new, that even
remotely reflects some past issue; we react as if all of it were new. It
compounds our thinking about Self in many burdening ways. Everyone is allowed to change and have that
change earned through our own personal work on those past negatives, then, to
have that change accepted... by us, for us.
You are what you think.
Sometimes we
need to have our goals for self to be not and wide and far. We need to recognize steps to take to turn
our negative thinking about self into positive.
Gratitude is part of this. Yes,
we may have had negative things, lots of negative things happen to us because
of people, places, and things. Yes, it
hurt. Yes it affected us, but...it does
not belong in our thinking today. Part
of being human is to progress, to change, to age, to mature. We have been told, have experienced for
ourselves, that change happens. Why
would we not be aware that our thinking should change too. We are not that wailing sad child any more. We are not that adventurous, mistake-making,
teenager. We are no longer that flailing
failing mother. If all else can change,
why can we not change our thinking about all of this? We can.
We should. As we mature and learn
more and more about the human condition, we realize that mistakes are
opportunities to change. We are what we
think: if you think negatively of
yourself; your choice: If you think positively, lovingly, with deep
compassion, you know why you did what you did and there is no way to change
that. But, you can change yourself and
the way you think about your human, brave self.
Can you do an
art journal page about such? In my art
journal page, I had butterflies on the top, that simply ruined the painting, so
I took that off and did a bit of change up.
Wait, we can change up all our mistakes, right? Yes yes, this page is only for me, and you,
to see that change is possible. Do that!
©Carol
Desjarlais 9.11.19
How the words of others who are close impact us in a negative way, its been two weeks since the past once again was thrown at me. I don't live there any more!! Cutting words really go deep into me. I refuse this time to crawl. Using the children to emotionally black mail me . sure not the first time. How dare they. shame .shame . As if there is not enough to deal with. One day at a time.. these feeling are sneaky, come like a thief in the night. Bring on the peace dear Lord . Hugs.
ReplyDeletethat is true, as well. Yes yes, you do not live there any more. And, those thief in the night feelings that rise up in our dark like nasty shadows of the past are very difficult to deal with... first of all, because we believe we deserve it.. until we love ourselves, the love of others will remain a speakeasy about us. Once you try to communicate face-to-face, it is difficult to try to sort anything out. We have to want to first. No one needs crawl. We are mature women and we can speak our mind. We , also know, there are stories on both sides. How miscommunication can truly wreck relationships. Hurt people hurt people. And, yes, eventually, we turn away and walk on. We have to to ever get anywhere in life. xoxoxo
DeleteThere is some day for them all. Ty
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