Self-Love: It is What It Is

 

 

 

Who are you, at this exact moment?  Do you trust yourself?  Are you comfortable in your own skin?  Do you keep promises to yourself?  Are you confident?  Do you believe in yourself?  Do you compare or compete?  Do you accept your flaws?  O you love yourself for who you are?  Are you totally self-aware or do you have work to do on self?  Are you kind to self?  Do you nurture yourself? 

We seem to all be uncomfortable with aspects of self.  We all have negative thoughts.  We all seem to feel that we are not enough.  It takes being mindful to sort out what is worth worrying about.  Be mindful in the moment.  It takes practice but can be done.  We need to come to a place where we let go of self-doubt, as only this will help you reach up to that potential you have and are able to achieve.  We are deserved of peace, happiness, joy and the sense of adventure that is there for us to achieve. 

This is our one and only body.  It is what it is.  Iitt is difficult to wrap our heads around our aging process.  But every age should be celebrated.    Everyone has days where we simply feel like we cannot cope with our changers.  The Beauty Business depends on us not accepting our body.  We need to capture all the awe and ah and oh that we can, and keep all those positive moments as precious gems.  Look for the positives.

I am 78 years old.  Every day I find out I have places I was not even aware of, because something new hurts.  I could focus on that, or I can surround myself with things that I look forward to each day.  Mu suite overflows with things that make me happy.  My daughter cringes as she is a minimalist.  But everything I have crammed into this smaller space is something that gives me a way to feel inspired, to feel accomplished, that gives me a sense of who I am and a place to keep that going.    I make sure I find something awesome every day, even on days where it might suck bigtime.   And I refuse to listen to those who say I am only as old as I feel.  How do I know how it feels to be 78.  I have not been this before.  To me, this is who I am at 78.  I am lucky to be able to do and accomplish all I do in a day.  This is personal and each of us is unique. 

I apologize to myself many times throughout the day.  I forgive myself.  Then I get busy making sure I do not have such negative thoughts about myself in any way. Use positive anthems every morning.  Do some journaling on how and why you love yourself, at the end of every day.  Don’t go to bed negative about Self.  And promise yourself that you will do better tomorrow if today has been a rough one. 

We need to give ourselves a talking to every morning.  Seek and you will find what you chose to find.  We are in charge of our mental health and we can build up our own resilience through actively seeking the positive.   Seek, always, inner peace.   

©Carol Desjarlais 9.21.25